Coming out is a journey, not a destination, that is different for everyone. The combination of your identities and experiences is unique to you and your process. You are not alone!
There are many resources at Washington University that exist in order to create space for you to navigate your identities, question openly, and be your authentic self, including peer mentorship, a free LGBTQIA* retreat, student groups, and regular programming and events. In addition, there are many online resources and books that can be helpful to you.
Destination Q Retreat
Destination Q is a free two-day, overnight retreat for undergraduate students engaged in lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans*, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual and ally (LGBTQIA*) communities at Washington University to explore leadership and identity development. Not only do students build connections and meet others who hold similar identities, they learn more about the different experiences within their community. Through community and small groups, social justice and leadership dialogue, story-sharing, and reflection, students learn about themselves, growing in self-awareness as leaders, community members, and stewards. Participants apply using the application form and are then placed into small groups during their experience in order to build closer relationships and connect with a peer mentor who leads their group.
Connections*: Connections* is a group that provides peer mentorship and support for students seeking to navigate their sexual or gender identity. They provide opportunities for students to meet one-on-one with a trained mentor in a safe and confidential environment. If you are an undergraduate who would like to connect with a mentor please fill out the intake form and a Connections* student coordinator will contact you shortly in order to set up a meeting time!
Open: Open provides a safe, supportive space for those at all stages of coming out and meets every two weeks during the school year. Email Open for more information.
Pride Alliance: Pride Alliance is a multi-focus LGBTQIA organization that is open to all Washington University students regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity and/or gender expression. Pride Alliance will provide a supporting and stimulating environment, which students can grow from, contribute to and build upon. Pride Alliance holds a general body meeting every two weeks during the school year. Email to this address for more information.
People Like US (+PLUS): +PLUS is a group whose primary focus is holding closed spaces for students who are both LGBTQ-identified and people of color to discuss unique issues at the intersections of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation and gender identity. We also work to spread dialogues on intersectionality and advocacy, collaborate with student groups and outside organizations, and remain in solidarity with QTPOC like us with various experiences, circumstances and needs. For more information, please email to this address.
Safe Zones is a peer education student group that discusses issues around sexual orientation and gender identity in order to foster a more open and accepting university community. If you have any other questions, email Safe Zones.
Transcending Gender: Transcending Gender (TG) is a student-run group that offers a safe space for individuals who wish to discuss and find support for their gender identity or expression. TG is open to individuals who identify as trans*, gender nonconforming, nonbinary, or who are questioning their gender identity. TG also seeks to aid other student groups in the efforts to educate the campus about trans* experiences and issues. Please contact Transcending Gender for more information.
WashU Ace & Aro is a student group focused on discussing asexual, aromantic and related topics, creating a sense of community for students who identify as asexual, aromantic and related identities, and raising awareness of what asexuality is. We are an open group to undergraduate students who identify as asexual, aromantic or a related identity, allies and people who are interested about these topics regardless of identity. Contact us via email.
For Graduate Students
- “Is it a Choice?”
- Charles Blow’s new memoir, Fire in my Bones
- Daisy Hernandez, Cup of Water Under my Bed
- Jeanette Winterson, Oranges Aren’t the Only Fruit
- Imogene Binnie, Nevada
- Andrew Tobias, Best Little Boy in the World